What would be the appropriate response from a teacher, pastor, elder, Pathfinder leader, or friend who becomes aware of a destructive family situation? Perhaps there is someone you know who lives with some form of domestic violence.

It is never appropriate for an aggressive, destructive relationship to continue unabated. To turn a blind eye and ignore the situation is irresponsible when eternal consequences are at stake. Help is available.

Some spiritual leaders have felt it their God-given duty to advise individuals to remain and submit in hopes of preserving a marriage. In reality, a time apart may be not only redemptive, but necessary for serious intervention to take place.

We must educate ourselves, and become aware of resources that offer redemptive help. The suggestions below may help your understanding and better equip you to be a support.

Dorothy Hayward is director of WellSpring Ministries, Village Church, Berrien Springs, Mich.