Becoming equipped to better attend to the needs of individuals with varying limitations calls for empathy, intentionality, tolerance and flexibility.
Jasmine Fraser PhD
August 28, 2025Recently, I recalled the anxious look I saw on a mother’s face as I served in a church some time ago. I remember how one of her children ‘misbehaved’ and created some challenges for the pastor. New to our church, she was the mother of five children, four of whom attended church with her that day. Later, it was confirmed that two of her children had limitations, which at times contributed to unacceptable behavior. Later, we also learned that this mother and her children had been to several churches within the vicinity. Each time one misbehaved, she was asked to leave and not return until they could behave appropriately. This explained her anxious response to her child’s behavior; she was afraid she would be asked to leave again, like all the other times.
While disruptive behavior in any place, particularly in worship settings, should never be condoned, it is important to note that certain limitations negatively impact individuals’ (especially children’s) behaviors and existential quality. Many in society embody physical, neurological and other limitations that require special attention that potentially enhances their capacity to function adequately. Limitations do not make individuals of lesser value to society or the church. Scripture affirms the dignity, value and vital role of every person, indicating that even those with limitations are not exempt. In fact, their role in the body of Christ is just as vital as anyone else's.
But while many systems in society are equipped to accommodate individuals with limitations, many churches are ill-equipped to respond adequately. Still, it is encouraging to know that some churches are taking the initiative to understand and adequately respond to individuals with limitations. Referring to the mother and children mentioned earlier, despite the inconvenience caused by one child, they were not asked to leave. Over time, this family found stability and a sense of belonging in a church because of the pastor’s awareness and intentionality in responding to a child with limitations.
Becoming equipped to better attend to the needs of individuals with varying limitations calls for empathy, intentionality, tolerance and flexibility. Though the task of becoming equipped can be daunting, ministry leaders can begin by facilitating a welcoming and safe environment where parents with children, and other individuals with limitations experience acceptance, inclusivity and a sense of belonging. This begins with training leaders on how to welcome and interact with individuals with behavioral differences, and fostering a contextualized approach, instead of a one-size-fits-all, to discipleship. Contextualized discipleship may include mentorship, support groups and intergenerational worship events that allow the church to experience one another authentically, with individuals receiving and offering necessary support. Additionally, leaders can create opportunities for children and individuals with limitations to actively participate in worship and service duties within the church.
Jasmine Fraser is associate professor of discipleship and religious education in the Department of Discipleship and director of its PhD program in the Seventh-day Adventist Theological Seminary at Andrews University.
